Social anxiety – How to help your kids join in the fun.

It’s time for fun, the jumping castle is set, games, prizes and super hero characters everywhere. So why is your child hiding behind your leg with eyes stretched wide, instead of joining in on the fun?

This is a scenario that Wendy knows all too well. Her five-year-old son Logan, clenches her hand tightly, begs her to stay with him and watch as all the other kids enjoy the activities. Wendy often joins in on the fun in the hope that Logan will be encouraged to take part himself. Wendy resorted to offering Logan screen time as a reward for his participation. “That didn’t work either!” Wendy exclaims. “Eventually I just stopped trying, I am tired and what’s the point?”

You anticipate that social events like parties, playdates, little athletics and many more will be fun opportunities for your child to develop social skills and form friendships, but some kids don’t share that perspective. Instead they are anxious and overwhelmed and their reaction can catch you off guard. Our minds revert to common patterned thoughts – “Am I a good enough parent?”

Getting angry, shaming or blaming can do emotional damage and make him even more timid. There are better ways to support your child in developing social and emotional confidence.

These lessons are best taught at home! Yes, at home! Don’t wait for social events or gatherings. If you teach at home, both you and your children can reap the benefits when you head out and your lovely kids get to use the skills they have been taught.

A key lesson in teaching emotional and social skills is building self-awareness. Self-awareness can help your child to nurture their strengths and overcome their weaknesses. It is a life skill that will help your child learn to understand their feelings and thoughts and optimise their potential. Self-awareness will also help your child understand what others think of their behaviour. Self-awareness will help your child develop various social relationships through their lifetime.

Here are some tips on how to build self-awareness in your child:

1. Be a good role model.

2. Accept and recognize your child’s emotions.

3. Share empathy with your child.

4. Allow your child to communicate openly and with honesty.

5. Ensure to give your child enough undivided attention.

6. Drop the notion of perfection.

7. Appreciate when your child gets it right!

Lastly, stop being afraid of your child’s feelings. We all too often fall into this trap. If you are constantly afraid of your child’s feelings you will rob them from the opportunity to grow and also yourself from the opportunity to foster a healthier relationship with your child.

Our Confident Children package can help you to assist your child in developing emotional skills and practical habits that will enable optimal confidence. This package will help you maximize your child’s full potential whilst equipping your child with an indestructible confidence. The package is suitable for all ages.

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“The confident children package has changed my life by helping me realize the small actions I could take to help Logan (5) break-through his social boundaries” Wendy P, SA

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