Do you ever worry about someone asking “why do you have this job?” or saying “you are not good enough for this job.”
Do you often feel the successes of your job were the times you were “lucky”?
If you do, don’t feel lonely, you are with 70% of the population who suffer from Imposter Syndrome.
What is Imposter Syndrome?
It is the inability to internalize your success as well deserved, and the experience of feeling like a fraud.
Ever experience that?
People with imposter syndrome often hide how they feel.
Suppressed emotions and thoughts can distort, and this can be damaging.
Sharing these emotions and thoughts with a trusted person can be helpful.
In the workplace, people often hide their feelings of imposter syndrome.
People with imposter syndrome may experience some of these thoughts:
“oh no, they know”
“I am not good enough”
“one day someone will find out I shouldn’t have this job”
“how did I even get this job?”
“I am a fraud”
Don’t de-value your skills, worth, or contribution.
If you find your job easy, it is not because ‘anyone’ can do it, it is most likely because you have the right skills and experience and make a good fit for the position.
Imposter Syndrome leads us to think things like “I got lucky”, or “they don’t really mean it, they were just being nice.”
Each time you reject a compliment with such thoughts you are rejecting an opportunity that proves your thoughts wrong about ‘not being good enough’.
You can control your thoughts, but not the impact they have on you. Never underestimate this!
If you have negative internalized thoughts to yourself, the person who suffers the most is YOU.
Imposter syndrome leads us to dismiss achievements or good work as “I got lucky” or “they don’t really mean it.”
When someone feels like an imposter, they can feel like they stand out like a sore thumb. Yet most people are feeling the same way. In other words; most people are too wrapped up in their own worry of being an imposter to notice you are being an imposter.
While you are thinking “someone will catch me out soon” 70% of people around you are feeling EXACTLY the same.
Truth is, all of these thoughts come from the FEAR center of the brain.
Here is what you can do about it:
Learn to accept compliments.
Stop doubting your ability.
Set realistic expectations (don’t expect the implausible, just so your mind can say “told you, I am not good enough”.
Stop feeding your brain with unrealistic evidence off the back of silly self-imposed expectations.
Recognize those words/thoughts as fear, and not reality.
Share these emotions and thoughts with a trusted person.
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