Updated: Mar 28, 2020
What is Confidence?
Confidence is believing in yourself, feeling comfortable in your true-self, knowing you have worth. It is a positive belief that in the future you can accomplish what you wish to. If you are confident, people believe you, confidence is attractive, brings success, helps to connect well with others and it will benefit you personally by helping you lead your family or your career.
Confidence is knowing that you have the skillset and abilities to face challenges and deal with difficult circumstances. It is knowing that you are the best version of yourself and having faith in your ability to face challenges and grow from them.
There are many things that can influence your confidence such as thoughts, feelings, past or current experiences and actions. The key is to develop confidence that will not be altered by influence or circumstance.
How does a lack of confidence affect your life?
Confidence is important for your health!
When you feel confident you are more likely to take good care of yourself, be active, spend time outdoors and make healthier food choices. Confidence can give you a positive outlook on life, increasing your wellbeing.
When your confidence is low you may not care about how you treat yourself or allow others to treat you. When confidence levels are low you may doubt yourself and new challenges may seem beyond your reach. You may care less about making healthy food choices and choose to hide from the world. This avoidance behaviour can lead to a continuous negative cycle, lowering your confidence even more.
Confidence is important for your career
A lack of confidence can have a dramatic effect on your career. It will keep you in your comfort zone because that is where you feel safe with little risk of failure. Low self-esteem can have a continued negative affect of your performance and occupational success. Low self-esteem can be like wearing a mask that prevents your from realising your full potential. That mask can be a cause of a trigger event, such as a comment from a boss such as “you are not as good as you think you are” or a mask that is put on over a period of time; such as always being the one who is afraid to speak in the meeting and have countless opportunities pass you by and with every opportunity that you miss out on, you beat yourself up for not being braver, smarter or more innovative. The great news is that you can reboot your confidence with focus and intention. Although fears and limiting beliefs may not completely disappear, over a time they lose control over your daily thoughts and purpose.
8 Things you can do to boost your confidence
List the things that affect your confidence in different situations.
Choose a Confidence Model and list the things that you think make them confident. What words would you use to describe your confidence model? How does your confidence model act?
Surround yourself with confident people. Spend time with people whom you would like to be more like. Ask these people what they do to be more confident.
Accept compliments. This is often challenging for people. You can start by saying “thank you”.
Visualise your confidence destination and plan the journey to reach it. Imagine what you would look like confident?
Take care of yourself – Self confidence is dependent on good physical health, emotional health and social health.
Learn to manage rejection by planned response. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" - Eleanor Roosevelt.
Try something new every day. By doing something new every day you gain confidence experience.